
Before we start, I have a confession to make. Two, actually.
Are you ready?
One, I have never done a blog series before. Please do let me know what works and what doesn't, what you would like to see, and how I'm doing.
And two-- our own routines have fallen a little lax and I'm feeling at loose ends. My sincere hope is that starting this rhythms and routines series will not only bless and inspire you, but will also help my own family to get back into the swing of things.
Phew! Confessions over, and on we go!
This post is about mealtime rhythms and routines. I'm not going to focus on meal planning-- I'll save that for another post- but this will be more about meal prep and how your meals fit into the rhythm of your day.
I always try to wake up before the children. I find that the only chance I have of keeping one step ahead of them is if I can get a head start! Generally in the morning, I put out a clean tablecloth and napkins, as well as other kitchen linens. Then I start breakfast. This morning it was a yummy oatmeal porridge found in
The Waldorf Kindergarten Snack Book.

This morning, I made cocoa as well. Since I'm making an effort to get back into a routine, I wanted to win the kids over to my side. What better way to bribe them than with chocolate?
I generally don't get a lot of help making breakfast-- they're waking up and going through their morning routine on their own. If help is offered, I take it, of course!
To call them to breakfast, I sometimes sing.
Do You Know the Muffin Man? is a good song on muffin days, and The Singing Day has a lovely little song, also about muffins, called
Three Little Puffins. But, to be honest, I usually don't have to call them to breakfast, because they're right there, hungry with bowls waiting.


This is our kitchen table, where the kids eat breakfast and lunch. We keep our silverware in the basket on the table. This makes it easier for everyone, and we can just carry it with us to the big table in the dining room when we all eat together. I also like to keep a bowl of "help yourself" fruit out.
We use cloth napkins and tablecloths. It's an ecologically sound decision, but I also find that real materials lend themselves to being treated with reverence and respect. We also try to use non-plastic mugs and bowls, although we do have a few melamine bowls for the little boys. Generally, the tablecloth makes it through breakfast, lunch, and morning and afternoon snacks. We use the same cloth napkin all through a day, barring any major messes. Each of us has a napkin ring so we don't get them mixed up.
I've had good luck finding cloth napkins at thrift stores, but there are lots of online directions for making your own, ranging from complicated to ridiculously simple.
Rip and Tear Napkins (ridiculously simple)
Make Your Own Cloth Napkins (pretty darned simple)
Simple Cocktail Napkins (fairly simple and a good size for little ones)
Molly's Handmade Napkins (somewhat complicated)
And of course, you'll need some
napkin rings to go
with them!
And, if I've gotten you into a sewing mood...
Bib tutorialand
Aprons!
Aprons!
Aprons! And
more aprons!And a
tablecloth.
In my house, everyone can clear their own dish. Right now, we're working on everyone but the toddler washing their own dish as well. This is fairly easy to accomplish with a sink of water and a stepstool. We try very hard to take the tact of "We're all working together to make our home a lovely place" rather than "I want to make myself redundant, so you're on your own to clean up after yourself." If you gently set an example and repeat and repeat and repeat, pretty soon you'll find your children leaning into the routine and doing their part.
Sometimes we do a cooking or baking project for morning snack, and I take my helpers where I can get them. This morning it was homemade rice pudding.


Afternoon is generally more of a "something from the pantry" affair. Today is was multigrain tortilla chips and salsa. Daniel approved.

One thing I would like to work on is how I call them to the table. While I do sometimes sing, I'll admit that more often than not, it's just me yelling "TIME TO EAT!!!!"
For handwashing before meals, we have our own version of "Warm, Hands, Warm". We sing:
Wash, hands, wash,
And dry them on the towel.
If you're going to wash your hands,
Wash your hands now!We use a variety of blessings and graces. I'm Catholic and my husband is a Lutheran pastor, so between us we have a rich heritage of prayer to draw from. I do like to pick a couple of seasonal blessings and post them near the kitchen table. This can be a great use for watercolor paintings!

Finally, I wanted to share our helper chart. Knowing I was writing this actually inspired me to write a new one, with Daniel added.

You can see how faded the old one was, and it only included the three older children. Daniel should be able to pitch in now, even at a toddler level.
We have four jobs: chef, host/hostess, waiter/waitress, and busboy/busgirl. Generally, we use this only at dinner, but if they're squabbling to help at another meal, I'll look at the chart then as well.
The chef helps to cook. He also gets ingredients from the pantry, fridge, or storage area. The hostess sets the table and calls everyone to eat. The waiter gets drinks and if we need anything during the meal, it's his job to hop up and get it. Everyone clears their own dish, but the busgirl clears the serving dishes and wipes down the table.
These are just a few of the underlying rhythms and routines that help make our meals more peaceful. I'd love to hear what you do at your house! And of course, I'll see you back here next week on Thursday, when we tackle morning and evening routines.